DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend used me, conned me and then left me as soon as I discovered he’d been cheating with another woman.
I feel like such an idiot for ignoring the signs that he was just using me.
We met two years ago on a night out in my hometown. He was on his brother’s stag weekend and very charming.
I’m 26 and he’s 27.
I was surprised when he started flirting with me as I’m pretty quiet but he was great fun and I ended up staying with his stag party until the early hours.
We stayed in touch and a few weeks later I visited him.
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We really hit it off and I couldn’t believe my luck — he is very good-looking and much hotter than any other man I’ve ever dated.
My dad has made a lot of money in property and has set me up as the landlady of a few flats to ensure I always have a healthy income.
After that first amazing weekend, my boyfriend told me he’d been made redundant from his estate agent job. He was gutted but he wouldn’t be able to afford to visit me.
I told him not to worry and that I’d pay his train fare. I ended up covering our nights out as well.
Some of my friends warned me to be careful and Dad made it clear he wasn’t keen on my boyfriend but I was smitten.
After a few months he moved in with me while he set up a new estate agency. Over the next year he told me he’d been let down by clients but was about to get a big contract several times.
And, of course, I believed him.
I even put him on my insurance for my convertible BMW for his birthday because he said he was feeling so low about turning up to big meetings on the bus.
He was delighted and loved driving around town in my car.
Then I discovered a condom wrapper in the back of my car and when I confronted him his cruel answer was “all good things come to an end”.
He’s gone back to his home town and as far as I know is living with this other woman.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This man sounds cruel and shallow.
And you certainly did not deserve to be treated so badly.
Of course this revelation will hurt but you really have had a very lucky escape. It would have been much harder to extricate yourself from this relationship if you had been married or had children together.
You were so trusting, and while you had a hurtful experience, it is out of these troubling events that we learn important lessons.
Please read my support pack, Mend Your Broken Heart, which I hope will help.
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Sally Land
